For your new blog response, read "Everything But the Ring" and answer ONE of the following two questions:
1) If you're not married, do you want to get married someday (and if you are married, why did you choose to get married)? If you don't want to, why don't you want to?
OR, if you'd rather not talk about your own preferences, answer #2:
2) What do you think the pros and cons of marriage are?
Length: At least two well-developed paragraphs
Due: Before our next class meeting
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As of now, I would have to say that I would not want to get married. I mostly prefer to be by myself, thus causing a problem if I where to be married to someone. Not to sound harsh or anything, but I would want to be able to get up and do what ever it is I desired to do, with out having to answer to someone. I also wouldn't want someone to hold me back, nor would I want to hold someone back from their goals. I'm not sure, but maybe being an only child and not coming from to big of a family might play a roll as to why I feel this way.
ReplyDeleteMany people say, "Every girls dream is to get married". Like most girls, I would do anything to find the man of my dreams and be able to walk down an aisle in a beautiful white dress. To be honest, I have been dreaming about it since I was little and saw Ariel, in "The Little Mermaid" get married to her prince charming. Love seems so perfect, and making a simple commitment to the one you love sounds so beautiful to me.
ReplyDeleteCall me traditional, but I believe that people who are in love should get married in order to start living together. I am strongly opposed to cohabitation, because I am truly convinced that it is a one way ticket to breaking up. With cohabitation, there is no foundation to a relationship. Basically, a partner can walk out on each other anytime, because there are no strings attached, and its not like they're married or anything. Cohabitation is a safety blanket, and it destroys the fundamentals and values of true love. Saying this, you can clearly see why I love the idea of marriage, and I hopefully one day will get married.
Personally i would want to get married because i feel it is one of the reasons we are on this earth to procreate and i feel the only right way to do that is through marriage. I don't feel now is the right time for me though. I feel i need to have a career and be stable in order to be married and have a family.
ReplyDeleteI was raised by my father and mother but they weren't married. I have seen the troubles that brings and i really don't want to go through the same thing my parents did. I don't think people should have a family if they are not married it just brings too many problems. There isn't anything holding them back if they want to leave. They don't have to go through a long divorce so they just go and forget about the "family" they had.
at this point in my life i can honestly say that i don't see myself ever getting married. i personally dont' have anything against the institution of marriage, but i have seen alot of failed marages which may contribute to my anti-marriage mindset.
ReplyDeletei grew up with both parents but i've seen their marriage hit some rough waters on more than a few occasions. it seems like the only reason they put so much effort into working things out is because they're married. i personally don't think i would be able to endure so much drama, it just seems better to cut my loses and move on if need be.
I would love to get married someday to be able to share my life with someone. But at the same time I know that I would not want to get married right now. I’m a person that likes to be independent and to do for myself I have always been that way. I feel that if I do get married that that I will lose that and that is something I don’t want to happen. I’m the type of person that if I’m going to do something that I’m going to do it and I don’t have to answer to anyone. But if I get married I feel that it will change because when you get married it is not about you anymore it is you and someone else. I also have goals that I would like to accomplish and I don’t want to feel like I’m being held back and I know that I don’t want to feel like I’m holding someone back either.
ReplyDeleteI would like to get married because I know that I would love to start a family someday. I would love to build a future with someone. I know that that can’t happen till I find someone that is willing to work with me and how I am. I don’t want to lose my independents and I don’t want them to either. I know that it will happen and I can’t wait till that day. I know that in my heart that it will be a long time from now till that day happens.
I would have to say that i would love to be married someday and have a family of my own. I know that i don't wanna be married anytime soon until i can manage on my own, but its been a dream of mines since i was a little girl to be married. I feel that sharing your life with someone else that you truly love is a beautiful thing. Theres no better feeling than to be with someone you care for most.
ReplyDeleteSome people don't ever want to get married, but they still want to be with that one person "forever". I believe that if you don't want to get married with that person it's probably because you really don't want to be with them forever. It's like you could walk out on them anytime. I would never want to be with someone in the far future that didn't wanna marry me. that's just my opinion.
Pros and Cons of Marriage
ReplyDeleteThe pros of getting married are financial legal benefits, tax cuts, insurance together,you've got someone who will always have your back and support you, someone who will be there when you need someone to talk to, someone to share your life with and build a family, a stable family life in the future, to be in love with someone, to grow old with, companionship, you should never be alone in life, and encourages couples to stay together
Then here is a few cons of being in marriage are if you end up getting a divorce and it is expensive, possibility that you can grow apart, financial (it falls apart), full time commitment, it is a lot of responsibility, expense and anxiety of children, risk of taking each other for granted, and also differences in opinion and arguments.
I GUESS THAT I WOULD LIKE TO GET MARRIED ONE DAY IN MY LIFE, BUT NOT ANY TIME SOON. I SEE MARRIAGE AS A LIFETIME COMMITMENT AND THEREFOR I DON'T FEEL THAT I AM MATURE ENOUGH AS OF NOW. I I UNDERSTAND WHY PEOPLE DON'T WANT TO GET MARRIED AND RATHER COHABIT AND THIS IS BECAUSE OF SUCH A HIGH NUMBER OF DIVORCES.
ReplyDeleteI LIKE TO VIEW MARRIAGE IN A DIFFERENT WAY BECAUSE RESEARCH SHOWS THAT THE HIGH NUMBER OF DIVORCES IS NOT BECAUSE PEOPLE DON'T BELIEVE IN MARRIAGE, BUT BECAUSE THEY BELIEVE IN IT TOO MUCH. PEOPLE ALMOST VIEW MARRIAGE AS A FAIRY TALES AND THEY FORGET ABOUT THE PROBLEMS AND DIFFICULTIES THAT IT COMES WITH. RESEARCH ALSO SHOWS THAT COUPLES THAT COHABIT ARE MORE LIKELY TO SEPARATE THAN MARRIED COUPLES.
Why did I get married you ask? I believe it complete's a part in your relationship that brings you closer together, makes you stand fast "through the rough patches", and up holds caliber of your character that you will show to your own future kin who you are. I will admit being married is not easy, you can't walk away from a situation you have to deal with the problem at hand and hopefully you'll from it. Another thing about being married, is that statistics show that you live longer and a healthier life.
ReplyDeleteI am definitely a big fan of marriage. I think that it is a wonderful and beautiful commitment to make when the time is right. Love is such an amazing feeling, and to celebrate it with marriage and commitment is such a dream. I can't wait till my big day comes when I get share my life with "The One". I strongly believe marriage is "till death do you part", and it should never be taken lightly.
ReplyDeleteAlthough my parents are not perfect, they have definitely shown me what marriage should and shouldn't be. I have learned from the achievements and difficulties they have faced in their commitment to one another. Just celebrating 22 years of marriage, I am honored and privileged to say that my parents are still going strong. I look forward to celebrating 22 and many more happy years of marriage.
I am currently not married, but do wish to be someday. I do not want to get married anytime soon though. I feel I am not ready financially or emotionally. I am currently a full time student trying to get my stuff together for my future. I firmly believe in marriage as a sacred sacrament of both faith and love. I know that when ever i do get married thats it, no divorce or break ups. I look up to most of my family, neither one of them have ever been divorced.
ReplyDeleteI would love to get married one day with someone i truly care for.I like the idea of wearing a beautiful white dress and walking down the aisle to meet the one you love.parents always talk about marriage and girls make it their goal to find their "prince charming" and get married with them.
ReplyDeletei believe in marriage, and i think its a very strong commitment you're making to the one you love.i think that people should have kids once they are married. I think cohabiting is not a very good idea because your partner can always walk away without having to deal with the situation.I believe marriage is a very important decision and i hope one day i have the opportunity of making that decision.
Marriage has always been a really weird subject for me. I've always be able to see myself getting married. But, in my life I've seen so many failed marriage, and so much pain from all of it. It makes me think twice about ever getting married. This article made a lot of sense to me, and i can completely relate with it. For example, when it said "i feel like i'm in this relationship because i want to be not because i have to be." I've seen so many people feel trapped by their marriage, and i never want that to be me.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, I think the way i feel has a lot to do with i haven't found "the one." Maybe one day i will and my opinion will switch completely and i will want to get married. Like every other girl I do have my dream wedding, and maybe one day i will get to have it. But, right now I'm just so happy being free and I have so much life ahead of me to do everything i want. I couldn't see myself tying down and giving any of that up.
I am not married currently. In the future I can see myself getting married. But I am not "looking to get married." My belief is if it happens. It will happen. Do not rush or push anything. Like my girlfriend. All through out high school I didnt have a single girlfriend. Than it just happened. And I have been together for two years. So basically what I am saying is that if it happens it happens, and if it doesn't than it doesn't.
ReplyDeleteAs a child i always dreamed about getting married, and to this day my dreams still remain. Getting married is something I look forward to because, you get to share your life with the person you love, the person you have so much in common with, you get to start a home and see how the two of you could make a family.
ReplyDeleteI am a strong believer in marriage, I think getting married helps you develop a relationship that could be stable,I mean there is a chance of divorce but, I'm willing to take that risk. With cohabitation the person could walk out of your life without any obligation . Without marriage there i no commitment.
Comming from an Arab Muslim family; marriage is done a little differently. We aren't allowed to marry just anyone we love. He has to be Muslim and preferably Arabic or Middle Eastern. It's hard thinking about marriage now at this age. Im limited to who i can marry. People come many times to my parents asking for my hand in but I say no because I don't know the guy and I'm to young. In the arab culture after girls hit a certain age they become "unwanted" and no one wants to marry them. So theres alot of pressure on us arab girls. My family isn't so closed minded about it. They want me to finish my education and get married when im ready.
ReplyDeleteI want to get married when I find the one and raise a family. I think it's an amazing thing to be able to share lives with the person you love.I really want to be sure that he is the right one before I actually commit because two of my older sisters have had bad experiences with marrying the wrong guy. So that's my biggest fear.I don't think I'm going to get married the way my parents expect me to. Marriage is a scary thing to me, sometimes confusing to explain. I don't want to have to plan marriage from now. If it happens I just want it to happen on its own. I rather not think about marriage at this point at all. I rather just go out and experience life and whenever that right person comes along maybe the thought will come to mind.
The big commitment that most girls would want to endure in their future is Marriage. It may seem that it’s what every girl dreams since they are just a little girl. Finding their “prince charming” or the “one”, but here is the thing, that person isn’t always right there in front of you. Sometimes you have to look and look until finally you find the right one. This is why I’m still searching just like many are. Don’t get me wrong it’s not that I’m saying that it’s not true or anything it’s just when someone asks me a question similar like: Do you see your self being married?, or When do you think that you are getting married? I would answer I don’t know because the truth is I really don’t know.
ReplyDeleteMarriage right now isn’t really important as my family, studies, and work. That is my future right now and until that moment comes I’ll focus on what’s in front of me. I wouldn’t lie I do sometimes think about it but it’s like a whole different aspect and all but until then I’ll either be waiting or continuing with the life I have right now. Life goes on and one has to keep moving forward to reach the next chapter of their life.
I would definitely like to get married someday. I just don't want to rush anything. Situations don't usually pan out too well when they aren't thought out. I'd just want to enjoy my time being single or not married and let everything else develop in due time. Finally, the girl I do end up with should be someone I can see myself being with forever. In my point of view through rough and though divorce isn't an option.
ReplyDeleteI believe marriage shouldn't be a one sided ordeal, as it seems to be in "I Want A Wife" by Judy Brady. I believe marriage should be a team effort. All marital troubles are really an opportunity to grow from, come out as better people, and strengthen each marriage. I really feel that marriage isn't easy but if both people give their all it's a good experience.
I guess someday i would like to be married. However, at the moment it is not something i am thinking about or want for the next couple of years. I think everyone likes the idea of having a significant other caring for them and loving them. It is obviously a big commitment and that is why i would like to wait for awhile. It should be something you do when you are financially and emotionally ready.
ReplyDeleteI would like to get married someday. I understand that there are pros and cons to it but it has always been something that I want to do. I know my parents would like to see me get married as well seeing as I am an only child I do not want to deprive them of that. However if my girlfriend is does not want to be married and still have a family I am ok with that as well.
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to when I want to be married or start a family now is not the time. I want my life to be on track. I want a steady and good enogh job that I know I can provide for my wife and kid as the only income earner. I am not against my wife working at all but i want to know that I can soley provide for my family.